Thanks
I would like to thank everyone who commented on my blog about my daughter. Everyone had really good things to say and I appreciated all of it.
When is comes to Jessica, someone once told me, when it comes to kids....
talk....
keep talking...
and dont stop talking.
I believe that is the key. So what happens is, we talk ALL the time, and I try to be as open as possible with her. We talk about sex, what boys/men will expect, want, demand, desire from her, my experiences, Joe’s experiences, his point of view, my point of view...
and when i say we talk, we talk to her for hours at a time....we can start out talking about school, and segway into clothing styles, videos, boyfriends, marriage, children, society, history, law enforcement…you name it.
i talk to her in the car, in the pool, in the yard, at the supermarket, in bed, while we're cooking....any time we're in the same room is a good time to open the conversation. It's been that way since before she could talk, i would walk around the kitchen while she was in her high chair and talk to her like she could answer, in the car I would talk to her about friends and clients and my hopes and dreams and she hadn't even said her first word.
My belief is, if YOU don’t talk to your kids, someone else will.
When is comes to Jessica, someone once told me, when it comes to kids....
talk....
keep talking...
and dont stop talking.
I believe that is the key. So what happens is, we talk ALL the time, and I try to be as open as possible with her. We talk about sex, what boys/men will expect, want, demand, desire from her, my experiences, Joe’s experiences, his point of view, my point of view...
and when i say we talk, we talk to her for hours at a time....we can start out talking about school, and segway into clothing styles, videos, boyfriends, marriage, children, society, history, law enforcement…you name it.
i talk to her in the car, in the pool, in the yard, at the supermarket, in bed, while we're cooking....any time we're in the same room is a good time to open the conversation. It's been that way since before she could talk, i would walk around the kitchen while she was in her high chair and talk to her like she could answer, in the car I would talk to her about friends and clients and my hopes and dreams and she hadn't even said her first word.
My belief is, if YOU don’t talk to your kids, someone else will.
I'm glad you talk to your child openly. I have always been so fearful and stupid about very important lifetime subjects. I have great parents but they just didn't talk about those things (to me anyway...I am the youngest girl). I got to your blog from Deb's. Anna
I can tell you are a very open and transparent person....that is refreshing.
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Motherhood is Here |
2:03 PM EDT
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Posted by
Anonymous |
4:42 PM EDT
Yall have a wonderful relationship. I'm close to my mom like that too. Except for sex. We talk about sexuality but not "SEX". I don't think that's the type of things I could easily discuss with my mom and I don't want to. I'd rather talk about that with friends. But my mom is my best friend and my hero!! I love her -- and that's an understatement LOL
I've never been really close to my father, and I kinda regret it but it's too late, our relationship is complicated, it's getting a little better with time though. But I never had a serious conversation with him about men and what they expect and what I expect from them, or even my problems and doubts as a teen. The only thing we talked about was school. We never talked about boys cause he's a selfish and complicated individual with machist tendencies so I already know his mentality when it comes to women and I don't really like it. And I wouldn't want him to tell me what I wanna hear either cause I hate faking. So we don't talk. We talk about my studies, politics, and that's about it.
Whoever Joe is (I suppose that's your man, but I don't know if that's her dad or stepfather?!!) I'm glad they're close because having a (GOOD) father figure is important in a girl's life.I have a father who never really took the time to understand me, you remember my post "don't put me in a box"? Well my dad is trapped in this box and doesn't understand people who live out of it -- if that makes sense.
Anyway, having that type of relationship with your child is a BLESSING! Lord knows being a teen ain't easy, she needs yall more than ever now.
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Anonymous |
4:53 PM EDT
You're a wickedly good parent, especially if your child feels confident enough to discuss anything with you. My mom was thhe same :). I totally agree with your policy, and I'm sure she'll grow up strong and confident.
Posted by
Mr. Death |
7:42 PM EDT
Keep up the good work
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11:38 PM EDT
Enjoyed a lot! »
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